The Best and You Know It

van·i·ty
–noun
1.excessive pride in one’s appearance, qualities, abilities, achievements, etc

OR
self-con·fi·dence
–noun
1. excessive or inflated confidence in one’s own judgment, ability, etc.

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A friend of mine called me vain the other day because I was looking in a mirror to fix my hair. Now, besides the fact that it did look like a rats nest and needed extreme attention, it bothered me that she thought me vain. Just because I care about how I look, doesn’t make me vain.

Of course, after fixing my hair, we went out and she later made the comment that I seemed very self-confident. So wait, first I’m vain–a bad thing–then I’m confident–a good thing. How can essentially the same thing be good and bad. Because I cared enough to look at myself in the mirror to tame the rats nest, I then turn around and be confident in how I look, so thats a good thing?

One would probably tell me that it’s once again, moderation that is the key in this situation.

I find that a certain amount of vanity is good for a person. I like to think that I worked hard to get the body I have, and I try hard to make sure I look nice. It matters what the world thinks of you, so obviously I need to make them think I’m a hot chick so they will give me more attention that will in turn get me ahead in life. Anyone who works out, and gets those washboard abs and incredible biceps through strenuous exercise deserves to admire their hard work and show it off. Of course, again, doing this excessively… never a good thing. And I define excessive as in the girls that are looking in every mirror they pass or at the compact mirror they carry with them every 10 minutes. And yes, it is possible for guys to be vain. The minutes they start looking in mirrors they pass and throw the Charlie’s Angel’s Hair Flip, then I draw the line. That’s just wrong.

But having a little vanity, I think, makes you more confident and able to take the day to day bashing hardships. If you worked hard, you deserve to be vain, and you deserve to be confident that you do look damn hot. It’s a shame though, that the two can be easily overlapped and have such a bad connotation.

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